We all go through little moments of doubt in our relationship. Sincere people like to show their worth by actions. If you really want to know if the person you are with is loyal, just pay attention to their actions.
Below are listed some of the signs that might indicate that this person is not loyal to you. If they don’t show any of these signs, it’s probably jealousy or unnecessary doubts, which are normal in any healthy relationship.
Take the loyalty test if you want to know if you are dealing with a loyal person.
Signs that might indicate that this person is not loyal to you
They use their phone or computer secretly and more frequently
They didn’t have a password? Now they do. They spend more time on their screens, delete messages or texts, suddenly turn off the phone, which they usually carry almost all the time. Even in the bathroom, they frequently checks their email or screen, making sure to look natural.
Try to borrow their phone because you forgot yours at work or at home and pay attention to the expression on their face. You will be able to tell the difference between a look of boredom or surprise and a fleeting expression of panic.
Their appearance changes noticeably
Your partner goes on a diet, practices a sport activity, changes their hairstyle, modifies their wardrobe (more trendy, more sporty, more elegant, sexier…), they start to give a lot of importance to their image and looks.
What is disturbing is the sudden break with their style and habits. When questioned about the reasons for this change, a person who’s not loyal denies or trivializes, gets annoyed and answers with generalities, such as “I want to feel better in my body”…
There are times when your partner is unreachable
If you are aware of your partner’s schedule and know where they usually are or should be, you can know if they are busy or chose not to communicate with you. What should alert you, once again, is the change in behavior. A recent change that is not motivated by new conditions can be indicative of a lack of loyalty.
When you care about someone you always want to keep them updated no matter the situation. If your partner cares about you, they should reciprocate that behavior and communicate often with you. Small actions and details can tell a lot about the health of a relationship. If under normal conditions your partner starts being unreachable, that usually means that they are not thinking about you.
Your partner starts showing lack of interest towards intimacy
If your partner is not feeling too intimate sometimes, it’s important to respect their space. However if they start showing constant lack of interest towards any physical contact, this is often a sign of underlying problems.
If your partner is not open to touch and you increasingly feel that they are acting like a roommate instead of your partner, it is a sign that they may not be happy in the relationship.
A lack of contact may indicate that someone else is fulfilling their needs.
They become annoyed or aggressive toward you
This is one of the frequent effects of the cheater’s guilt. In order to ease the burden of his or her behavior, they will directly or indirectly address numerous (often minor and unfair) reproaches to their partner, criticize the relationship, question your lifestyle or criticize the couple.
This hostility, which helps to feel good and justify their behavior, can also be for some the first step towards distancing themselves from their partner.
Some unfaithful people have a generous guilt: they distribute compliments, gifts, surprises of all kinds. These gratifications, which helps them to live better in their infidelity, are also intended in order not to be suspected.
Friends that might know what is going on
Most of the time, there is at least one of your friends who knows. In this case, they become less present, to avoid being questioned about your partner.
When asked if they have noticed anything special about your partner, they will brush it off, answering with generalities, abruptly ending the exchange, and deflecting the conversation, or else jumping in, assuring you that they have not noticed anything and that if they had, they would have told you.
Some friends, who are very guilty, may on the contrary be present, more attentive than usual to compensate and help you.
They react to the words “infidelity”, “loyalty” and more
If the subject comes up in the conversation (the mention of a book, a movie, a story of relatives …), they try to end it or to divert it as quickly as possible.
If you insist on asking his opinion on the matter, they will either do too much or too little. They may launch into a plea for the defense of values, the right of each person to choose what suits him or the evolution (or regression) of morals. They can also pretend to be completely uninterested in the issue, assuring that this is not the kind of subject they are interested in.
In any case, use your instincts to evaluate theirs words, embarrassment, aggressiveness or his impatience to change the subject. If you are dealing with an unfaithful person who does not want to be unmasked, expect a very aggressive, guilt inducing counter-attack if you raise doubts about their fidelity. To defend themselves, they will not hesitate to accuse you of pathological jealousy, paranoia or control freak.